Dating Advice

With hundreds of online dating sites springing up on the internet everyday some singles are finding it increasingly difficult to find the correct dating path for them. The millions of pounds spent on TV and magazine advertising by the dating industries big hitters can be all that’s needed to lure potential singles to their mass databases, but is this always the best route to follow?

Thousands of singles are turning their backs on the match.com’s and e-harmony’s for a more refined approach, and there is definitely no shortage of choice in this area, with niche sites catering single gardeners to singles with a love of rugby; to just about every other conceivable dating permutation the choice is most certainly back in the hands of those looking for friendship or love.

So the day’s of having to join the mass ranks of the main player’s maybe over but what about the personal touch? Would you put your faith in someone else to find your Mr or Mrs Right? There’s no doubt that online dating is the most cost effective way of dipping your toes into the dating world but many professionals find the whole process too hit and miss. Professor Moore finding himself on a dinner date with Tracy the Glaswegian shelf stacker from Sainsbury’s is unlikely be his ideal matchup (Although there’s probably a niche site to help him find her if it is!)

Professional introduction agencies offer the kind of one to one service that online dating sites will never be able to offer and many thousands of high achievers and professionals still prefer them over the online solution.

Over the past 2 years there has been a massive increase in the number of over 50’s joining online dating agencies. The exact reasons for the increase can not be singled out but it’s believed to be partially down to the older generation becoming much more computer literate. There are now hundreds of government funded courses freely available and this can only be great news for the online dating industry. 

What better ways can there be for the over 50’s than to meet new partners and find new friends  from the comfort of their own homes. In my opinion this will be an area of the market that will continue to grow.

If you’re over 50 and looking for such a site then try http://www.50pluslove.com we will be doing a full site review in the near future.

We’ve put together a few interesting sexual facts

• Sex helps women produce more oestrogen, which makes their hair shiny and skin glow. 
• The most popular sexual fantasy is threesomes. In the UK, 20% of women and 30% of men want to try it out. 
• The more orgasms you have, the longer you’re likely to live, according to special research from the British Medical Journal.
• Why does semen sometimes have a bleach-like smell? It’s due to the chemical spermine – a natural disinfectant that buffers the sperm from our vaginal acids. 
• A study of 290 couples under the age of 30 found that non-smoking men have twice as much sex in a month than smokers do. They also rate their sexual enjoyment higher.
• The average speed of ejaculation is 28 miles per hour.
• The most common out-of-the-bedroom spot for couples to have sex is in a car.
• Men experience an average of four to five erections during sleep.
• Sex is a natural antihistamine. It can help combat asthma and hay fever.
• Every day, 200 million couples in the world have sex.
• Women in the UK think about sex 2 1/2 times a day, men think about it twice as often.
• Scatophilia is sexual gratification from talking about sex with a stranger, often by phone.

If you have anymore let us know.

The number of adult sex dating sites has grown rapidly over the last few years, mainly due to people having far less hangups about casual sex relationships and a much more acceptable view by society as a whole.  If you’re not interested in starting a serious relationship and are just looking to satisfy your sexual needs then adult sex dating could be your thing.

Of course like with everything else in life your safety must always come first and obviously this is especially important  considering that  at the end of the day you are planning to meet virtual strangers for sex. This form of dating can be very exciting and enjoyable but could also prove dangerous unless you use your common sense and take some sensible precautions. We have listed a few below.

Spend time messaging the person and getting to know them a little before arranging to meet up. If you feel at all uncomfortable about them, what they’ve written or suggested call it off. Your intuition is probably correct.

If you decide you like them but want to take things further we would always advise that you first meet for a casual drink before committing to meeting for sex. It’s always best to tell a friend what your plans are before you meet your date.

If you still feel comfortable go for it but remember to always use condoms as there are no rules or limits to the number of sexual partners members can meet. Have fun but always remain in control of the situation and if you don’t feel safe get out of there!

Here follows are a mind boggling catalogue of dating disasters that we should bear in mind as lessons learned.

1. In top spot – dating a married person. Man or woman, it makes no difference. In every version the story was the same, dating a married person was a complete disaster. Not withstanding the lies, deceit, regret, cheating and false promises, on NO occasion did anyone I asked have a good outcome for their married affairs. This was one good example of how to waste your years waiting for someone who will never leave; sharing your loved one with someone else and spending thousands of dollars on stolen moments and brief weekends where you were not the only person on their mind. Avoid like the plague unless you want to lose all the dignity you ever had.

2. Amazingly not marrying your childhood sweetheart was number 2. It appears there are a lot of people who have spent years wishing they had married the person of their dreams when they had the chance. Unfortunately this often tends to be your childhood sweetheart or first love at college. At the time you are too young and there are too many other fish in the sea. In later years you have used them as a bench mark of the minimal level of romance required for potential partners and never quite match it. This leads to a feeling of making do with second best. In turn you start hankering for the girl or boy from all those years ago.

3. Not asking someone out on a date when the offer was there. This is a biggie because we are dealing with the eternal niggling “what if..” question. This tends to come out as a regret at a time when other things are not going well and you find yourself fantasizing. What if you had asked him out. What if you had said yes to that date. What if you had got married and had children. It seems that not asking someone out can leave a long term legacy. Just look at the popularity of reunion sites on the Internet just now.

4. Not ending a bad relationship earlier. Yes lot of us listed this one. There are many of us who have entered into a relationship willingly only to discover to our cost that the relationship wasn’t all it could be. Whilst the door was only over there we chose for many a reason not to walk out of it. Whilst perhaps a worthy concept in itself it does none of us a service. The fact is, too many of us have stayed in long term relationships that were not good for ourselves and our partners. If only we had had the courage at the time.

5. Dating the wrong person for the wrong reasons. Maybe for sex, for appearance, for contacts, for business reasons or even out of sympathy. It appears that there are plenty of people out there who have dated people for the wrong reasons and lived to regret it. This has to be balanced against hindsight. Looking back it is obvious which people we perhaps should never have dated but there are plenty of us who dated the wrong person at the time and knew we were doing it. No excuse.

6. Putting your career first and waiting too long. Oh yes, this is a modern classic. Our current society has a problem in that a third of all adults are now single – and growing. The most commonly sited reason is that we put our career first, especially through out 20’s and then begin seriously dating in our 30’s when we feel ready. The problem is that we are not as young as we were, not as attractive as when we were 21 in many cases, our body clocks are ticking at a  deafening volume and all the best catches have been snapped up. A great many of us appear to be wishing we had sorted out our love lives earlier. Be warned.

7. Leaving someone you were in love with. I don’t have the answers but it cropped up quite a few times in my survey and could be tied in with point 2. People in love have left and seem to struggle to find an explanation. All too often the decision was regretted very quickly only to find that the rejected partner had closed and bolted the door and you were never going to be allowed back. Infidelity is the primary cause, or more to the point, getting caught. If you love someone stay with them faithfully appears to be the lesson here.

8. Not being the nice person you could have been. Treating someone badly in a relationship always comes back to haunt you if you are the guilty party, however empowering it may have felt at the time. As we grow older we list mentally those we could have been nicer too and I am amazed how many of us confess we could have been nicer people to our lovers. I am not talking about physical violence though we all accept that it does exist within our society. No I simply mean being courteous, kind, remembering birthdays and anniversaries, buying flowers, compromising, going on holidays and being romantic and spontaneous. We live and learn and later regret is clearly the message.

9. Dumping someone in a callous and bad way. I have done it and I have had it done to me and I regret both happening. When young it was easy to love and leave and I never thought anything of it. As I grew older I had it done to me by someone I loved and it broke my heart. I don’t think we every do get over being left in a bad way – no explanation, no reasons given. One day it’s fine, the next day you’re gone. Dumping via email, texting or phone should be made cardinal sins and it appears from my survey that many of us regret doing just that.

Have you recently come out of a relationship that you thought would never end? If so, taking that step to get back into dating can be a little frightening, which is why online dating is such an incredible solution. Since you control just how fast things move and how much information is shared, you can get past the last failed relationship and start all over again.

The first thing is to realize that while broken relationships are sad and hurtful, you have the opportunity to take things learned from that relationship to make your next one even better. Rather than hide away in your bedroom, allowing life to pass you by, try online dating so you can start out slowly making friends and then perhaps meet someone special to take things past being friends.

Before you get started with any online dating service, you need to take a serious look at your past relationship to determine what went wrong. Sometimes, this is difficult but if you want to meet someone new, you need to see where the weaknesses were so they can be improved upon. Once you have identified the problem, you can correct it so you do not take it into a new relationship. Another important aspect of moving into online dating is that you need to let the past go. …
Although it might be difficult at first, don’t repeatedly go over what went wrong, or you will never have the chance to enjoy your newfound friends. Letting go is what will open the doors of opportunity for new connections. Again, as you start communicating with people through the online dating service, there is no rush, which is what makes this such an incredible option. You can be communicating with 10 different people if you like and if things start moving too quickly for you with one or more of them, you can ask them to slow down or simply cut the communication off. You are in total control so you find exactly the type of person you want and avoid the type of people you do not want.

Be careful when meeting new friends. Do not start off by telling them all about your last relationship. They too probably have failed relationships, which is why they are on the dating service to begin with. This is the opportunity to start over, leaving the past alone. Instead, start by asking questions about the person you are talking to and learn about the type of things they find important in life.

There is an old saying, “Expect the worst and hope for the best”. With online dating and starting over after a rocky relationship, if you go into it with a mindset that you are not expecting a princess or prince but hope you will, then if a connection is made, you will be pleased. Above all, have fun! You need to relax and enjoy the experience. After all, chances are high that you will at least make new friends. Enjoy flirting and the newness of meeting people. With online dating, you can have a wonderful “dating” experience unlike anything you have ever encountered before. Now is the time to take charge of your life and stop letting the past control your future.

One of the best dating services we have found, especially if you’ve just come out of a long term relationship can be found at http://www.dating4divorced.co.uk

We have put together some information on body language on a first date and what it all means.
The more eye contact you establish the better. Start with some sidelong glances. Then, begin with direct eye contact. Be bold and try holding full eye contact, and try flashing a small smile. When in conversation, looking at the ceiling and all around the room, also shows a definite lack of interest so if you notice this try to change the topic of conversation, maybe ask some questions about them.

First impressions count, so make sure you are looking your best. When you are looking your best you will feel your best and then you will exude confidence. Confidence, although not arrogance, is definitely attractive.

Even without direct contact, your hands can send very powerful messages. There are a number of ways to convey that you want to get to know someone. Keeping your hands unclenched shows you’re open to them. Using your hands to caress objects, such as the rim of your glass or your hair, in a rhythmic (as opposed to fidgety) manner, can be a sensual act
Having your hands in your pockets, or balled in tight fists are not good signs. Finger tapping, drumming, pointing, or wagging are also signals to move on.
 
Your posture is one of the most telling body language signals. An open posture is evidence of an open person. Turning your body toward the person you’re conversing with, keeping your feet flat on the floor and leaning forward are actions that show interest. As well, slightly tilting your head and crossing and uncrossing your legs, give the message that you are interested. If you notice any of these that is a good sign.

Steer clear of chain smoking, being extremely intoxicated, or having eyes only for your plate of food as these are definitely body language disasters. One last tip… you’ll know things are going really well when you begin “mirroring” one another’s body language and gestures.

We hope this will give you a few things to look out for next time you are on a date, that will give you an idea of how successfully the date is going, even if you haven’t had any verbal feedback!

It is perfectly normal to feel some nervousness or uncertainty when you first become intimate with someone. Poor body image, weak self-confidence or sexual inexperience can all contribute to this negative effect. Penis size, or a lack thereof, can create so much confusion and insecurity, even to the point of obsessiveness. It is useful to have SOME size, but more than a few inches doesn’t make the difference between a good lover, or bad. In any case, you don’t have to let it weaken your performance; you can pleasure the heck out of someone regardless of size.

We’re no longer living in the proverbial caveman days where a big penis dictates a man’s virility, sexuality and masculinity; if it’s connected to a vulgar, inexperienced oaf then he doesn’t stand a chance. Although a big package might make your life a little easier, you won’t have much of a grace period if you have inexcusable sexual habits. Being a master in the bedroom is not just about deep penetration. It’s about having confidence, openness and impressive bedroom skills – with emphasis on skills…

Some women truly don’t even like a big penis – it can be uncomfortable or downright painful! Also, of much more importance to a woman is penis girth (measurement around the penis) rather than length; the nerve-endings within a woman’s vagina end within a couple of inches, so the sensation of ‘feeling full’ is generally more about the width than anything else.

Work on your skills and up-sell them! Your penis won’t be as big as one of her dildos, so don’t bother competing! Why not become the master of cunnilingus and make sure to hone your fingering skills? Or how about turning into a walking sex encyclopedia? You’ll impress her with your knowledge and dazzle her with your talent.
Maybe consider a massage course; it can make your partner feel so aroused and will help you appreciate the importance of touch and sensuality.

Feel confident about yourself – if she doesn’t think that you’re comfortable with your penis, she definitely won’t be. The way that you feel about yourself is very apparent to women because they always want to read between the lines. Don’t direct so much apprehension to places you’re uncomfortable with; a man with a very obvious complex is a big turnoff. She might not have even noticed had you not obsessed about it.

Respect your sexual partner, whether they’re long term or not. This will translate to her feeling more comfortable and more receptive. The openness that she feels will actually improve her sexual experience with you (score for you) but she’ll be much more interested in reciprocating the same respect with inexhaustible invigorated effort. Score for you again.

Utilizing certain sex positions can make your penis seem like a giant’s. Try integrating sexual positions that focus on g-spot stimulation; they make use of the right angles and shallower penetration. Avoid the showy poses that even the most endowed fellow couldn’t handle. Also consider seeking out specialty condoms that are tailor-made for a smaller penis – when you need to call upon them in your time of need, you won’t be worrying about how they fit.

Tighten up some other areas of concern in your life so that you have fewer things to worry about, let alone what other people might think of your penis. Even just the action of self-improvement will change your self-perception. There are things you could do to procure bedroom approval: exercising to improve body image; having better grooming techniques like trimming or shaving your pubic area; good hygiene (smelling good & having fresh breath); and, preparing your sex space for maximum impact (even if that is only just tidying it up).

No matter what size you are, one thing is for sure. The biggest thing that your partner will notice is how much you respect and satisfy them in bed… honest!

Dating dislikes are a personal thing that’s for sure. The things one person loves someone for can be the cause of a ruined relationship in another case. There are though some common trends that we all share when going on a date. So here’s a list of the biggest turn offs in the world of dating…

Hygiene. The top of the list by far in the league of dating dislikes. It may sound obvious but in truth, it is often overlooked, especially by men. Turning up for a date doesn’t just mean a quick rake of the hair and the straightening of a t-shirt. Remember, first impressions count and may be the only impression you leave.

Clothes are big dating dislikes. The wrong clothes that is. It is a case of dressing in the right outfit for the occasion. There is no point dressing in your very best if it is a casual lunch date, however for a romantic dinner somewhere nice you need to dress to impress. Once again, too tight, too short or too fashionable may leave you feeling out of place for the date and wishing you hadn’t bothered. The most important thing to remember is to be comfortable.

Money. A big issue this one in the dating dislikes list. Too much chat about cash and you are out, too little ambition and you are out. Seriously, keep your cash conversations to a zero level and enjoy your date together. It can leave your date feeling very uncomfortable either way. If you are dating out of your financial zone then don’t try and pretend as that will be fatal. Instead always keep to something affordable, after all, you are spending time with someone, not their bank balance.

Lying. People tell lies on dates, in fact most people do and this is a great dating dislike. They do this because they want to appear exciting and invigorating and interesting. People are usually seeking honesty and this is one of the basic building blocks of any new dating experience. If you tell lies at the beginning they will eventually get found out and when they do your partner will begin to wonder what else you might have lied about.

Getting drunk. This is one of the biggest mistakes to make on a date. The most promising dates can end up going nowhere simply because one of you ends up getting too drunk. Now 99% of the reason behind this is nerves. Many people are far better with a drink inside them than without. It’s a relaxant, it calms nerves and fears and promotes a feeling of confidence. In that sense, a drink is good for dating, the problem is that it doesn’t end there. If you are nervous you can end up drinking too much and making a fool of yourself.

So bear these things in mind when you have a hot date lined up, after all you really do want it to go well and then hopefully this date will lead to another!

Scared, anxious, uncertain, these are just a few of the many common feelings that we all have when we contemplate going on a first date.

What will I wear? Will we hit it off? Do I really need this? We’ve all been there at some point in our lives and maybe you’re in that same position again but it’s just that it’s 25 Plus years since the last time you did it and this time you have a family to consider. These circumstances can bring a whole new level of anxiety and uncertainty but you shouldn’t let that put you off. There are literally millions of singles in exactly the same position throughout the UK all feeling just the same way as you.

At the dating advice blog we hope that we may be able to help by bringing you some good, honest tips and advice to break down a few dating barriers and ease you back into the dating scene once again. We hope we can point you in the right direction so your dating path is a little bit clearer.

So brush away those negative feelings and enjoy being excited about the prospect of finding that special someone.